Reminders come and go in waves. Over the last 5 months there have been times when it has been close to unbearable to see someone with a full round pregnant belly. The miscarriage did not emotionally scar me as people suggested that it would. It's not that I am any stronger than anyone else (more resilient perhaps because of my past experiences) but I know for a fact that the baby didn't have a heartbeat yet. It was too early. Two ultrasounds confirmed that, somehow that makes it easier for me.
I don't know if the blue eyed, blond haired little boy that Steve and I have BOTH seen in our dreams at night will ever exist. I so wish that I could give the love of my life the little boy he's always wished for.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Friday, September 11, 2009
Why We Fight
Rest in Peace to all those that lost their lives that day, and to those that have followed to avenge that loss.
Never Forget.
Never Forget.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Can I just send you 100 bucks and we can forget about the whole thing?
So I get this huge census booklet that I am supposed to fill out that is supposed to take 40-50 mins of my time. It asks all kinds of really invasive questions that are not the govt's business. I'm wondering if I just send the form back with single female checked and a money order for $100 if they will just leave me alone.
After all that's all the information I legally have to give them as it states in the Constitution.
I want my country back. But apparently me saying that is some sinister underlying racist statement. It's me saying I don't like having a black President. I hate it when people put words in my mouth. I couldn't care less what color our leader is. In fact I am proud that he was elected at all. I disagree with him on EVERYTHING. Yet I know he made history by the very act of being elected.
I'll send them the form, the money order and a copy of the Constitution.
After all that's all the information I legally have to give them as it states in the Constitution.
I want my country back. But apparently me saying that is some sinister underlying racist statement. It's me saying I don't like having a black President. I hate it when people put words in my mouth. I couldn't care less what color our leader is. In fact I am proud that he was elected at all. I disagree with him on EVERYTHING. Yet I know he made history by the very act of being elected.
I'll send them the form, the money order and a copy of the Constitution.
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
The Internet is not a place where people play nice.
They'll turn on you quicker than a pack of badgers on meth. - Sofia, a commenter on another blog wrote this. It's so true. I had written a long post about it a while back but took it down. At the time I was just incensed about boorish behavior towards other people and a sense of entitlement that people had that their issues were the only really important ones and therefor they are the only ones who have a right to be outraged.
If the internet is like walking down the street in New York City, blogs and their comment sections are the schoolyards. Bullies abound, dodgeball is still legal, and sometimes you meet some really good friends to share lunch with. You might fight with them occasionally, disagree with their opinions, but in the end they are still friends because you respect them to begin with.
There is nothing wrong with having a little common decency and not saying anything to purposefully hurt someones feelings just because you're having a bad day. Anonymous commenter's contribute to the dumbing down of our society. They are the bullies on the playground. And it's true what our grammar school teachers taught us. Just ignore them. That's why I personally choose not to allow them.
I've been lucky in that no has mocked my personal business in my comments. Granted I took most of it down (lawsuits will do that to you) but there are tidbits here and there. The friends I have who've been through cancer treatment this year, how I still miss my dogs after so many years (more than some humans I know), a death in the family this year and a miscarriage on Mother's Day. I don't need to have a thick skin, the power of my delete button is far greater.
People can only hurt you if you give them the power to do so.
I choose not.
If the internet is like walking down the street in New York City, blogs and their comment sections are the schoolyards. Bullies abound, dodgeball is still legal, and sometimes you meet some really good friends to share lunch with. You might fight with them occasionally, disagree with their opinions, but in the end they are still friends because you respect them to begin with.
There is nothing wrong with having a little common decency and not saying anything to purposefully hurt someones feelings just because you're having a bad day. Anonymous commenter's contribute to the dumbing down of our society. They are the bullies on the playground. And it's true what our grammar school teachers taught us. Just ignore them. That's why I personally choose not to allow them.
I've been lucky in that no has mocked my personal business in my comments. Granted I took most of it down (lawsuits will do that to you) but there are tidbits here and there. The friends I have who've been through cancer treatment this year, how I still miss my dogs after so many years (more than some humans I know), a death in the family this year and a miscarriage on Mother's Day. I don't need to have a thick skin, the power of my delete button is far greater.
People can only hurt you if you give them the power to do so.
I choose not.
Meet Jack!
He's my foster husky. He was found by a police officer July 4th night and dropped off to me at the barbecue I was at up the street. He was scared, had not been brushed in YEARS (I love my furminator) and had a wound on his butt. Turned out to be an infected anal gland and a small tumor. $712 later they were biopsied and are not cancerous. The surgery will cost us $1042 with the neuter as I don't want him to be out under anethesia 3 times in one year. I can't quite figure him out yet, he is nippy but very friendly and loves affection. At any rate he is up for adotion to a Siberian experienced home only with no kids and no cats. He would really like to have a brother to play with, he is great with Foster my roomates dog
Monday, June 1, 2009
Domestic Terrorists
We have them.
They shot him in church. In. Church. On a Sunday morning. All the anti-crowd can do is complain that it will set back their agenda 20 years. There's no, we're sorry someones life was taken over an ideological difference.
Here's my favorite part of the article "“It makes the abortionists the victims,” Sullenger said. “They’re not the victims. They’re the victimizers as far as we’re concerned.”"
Really? he's not a victim? Is he not currently lying on a slab in a mortuary somewhere getting ready to be autopsied so they can collect evidence. People who believe this way are selfish pricks. Your religious beliefs have no business is legislating what can possibly happen with MY body. If you don't like the laws in your state then go move to state where you do like them. I've heard South Dakota is a good bet, they've restricted abortions to the point where it's almost impossible to obtain one.
At the age of 41, I recently found out that I was pregnant. Something was not right with the baby and I miscarried. My boyfriend and I are emotionally devastated by this. However, before that happened we sat down and discussed doing genetic testing given my age and his.
Would I choose to bring a child into this world with a massive disability that would prevent it from living a life free from pain? No way. There are some disabilities that we could live with and some we couldn't. Some tests that required waiting until the second trimester. That's a personal decision each person or couple has to face. I can tell you it is not an easy thing to think about. It's a decision one hopes to never have to make. But the reality is that many women face the same choices daily. And if in the end the choice is to not continue with the pregnancy then a LEGAL, MEDICALLY SAFE procedure should be available to them.
The anti-abortion lobby can no longer stop a first trimester abortion. RU 486 made that possible. It can be ordered from outside the country if need be. All that they would accomplish if they tried to take that away is make it harder for the poor to obtain it. So they have stepped up their efforts on other fronts. Luckily for the folks in Pennsylvania a 2nd trimester abortion is still available. Let's keep it that way.
Abortion is never an easy decision for anyone. Let alone while you're having someone else's agenda and religion shoved down your throat while you're going through the agonizing process. I'm lucky that I got to deal with one of the top doctors in the city, attached to a hospital free of protesters. Should I have had to make such an awful choice I would have been treated with dignity and would have been free of people shouting baby killer in my face. Every woman in our country should have the same choice.
He was one of three doctors in the entire country to perform a third trimester abortion. 3. That's how far the protesters have eroded our rights by force, intimidation, and violence to doctors. By protesting at their homes, work places, and even their children's school.
I hope people like Cheryl Sullenger rot in hell. You can find out more about her here She was arrested, convicted and served 2.5 years in jail for conspiracy to bomb an abortion clinic. With human beings inside. She has since 'renounced' violence? Leopards don't change their spots. Or should I say religious zealots don't change their ideology. She is no better than a home grown version of Al-queda.
I say strip them of their rights as American citizens for these acts of violence and yes, what I believe is home grown terrorism. Send them to Gitmo.
Political backlash expected from Tiller’s shooting
By DAVID KLEPPER
The Star’s Topeka correspondent
WICHITA | The bullet that killed George Tiller on Sunday did what lawmakers, prosecutors and grassroots activists never could: end the career of the nation’s most prominent abortion provider.
But those who long fought against Tiller’s work now worry Sunday’s act of vigilantism will set back efforts to restrict abortion and will poison the debate — possibly for years.
“I think he (Tiller) was a lawbreaker,” said Rep. Scott Schwab, an Olathe Republican who supports more abortion restrictions. “But this is not how you win … you win by winning hearts, not by stopping them from beating.”
Until Sunday, Kansas’ abortion debate looked to be settling into a staid middle age. Sure, Tiller’s clinic was still subject to daily protests. Sure, every year saw new attempts to restrict abortions in the Legislature. But the debate more and more hinged on hypertechnical changes to state statute.
It was a battle waged with news releases and legislative hearings, not bullets or bombs.
That changed Sunday when Tiller’s death left both sides looking for answers, and speculating about the future.
Abortion-rights supporters said Sunday’s killing shows the danger of heated ideological rhetoric, and the continued need to protect women’s right to abortion.
“We’re not going to let the terrorists win,” said Peter Brownlie, president of Planned Parenthood of Kansas and Mid-Missouri.
Anti-abortion leaders denounced Sunday’s shooting as a vicious and unpardonable act.
One of Tiller’s most dogged critics, Phill Kline, former attorney general and former Johnson County district attorney, sent a statement to reporters saying he was “stunned by this lawless and violent act, which must be condemned and should be met with the full force of law.”
Mark Gietzen of Wichita, who has organized 1,846 consecutive days of protests outside Tiller’s clinic, said Sunday’s killing could deal a significant public relations blow to abortion opponents.
“If this person’s connected in any way to the pro-life movement, it’ll set us back 20 years, because the people of America do not approve of this behavior,” he said.
Others worry it will erase years of grassroots work. Cheryl Sullenger, a spokeswoman for Operation Rescue, fears Tiller’s death could prompt sympathy for opponents.
“It makes the abortionists the victims,” Sullenger said. “They’re not the victims. They’re the victimizers as far as we’re concerned.”
Tiller was a dedicated to his work, for two decades one of the few physicians in the nation to specialize in late-term abortion. He was shot in 1993 and his clinic was bombed in 1986.
He also survived legal attempts to shut him down, emerging unscathed from grand jury investigations and criminal prosecutions. Legislative attempts to curtail his work typically were vetoed. An attempt to take away Tiller’s medical license was pending when he was killed.
Over the years, Tiller became a lightning rod, a hero to abortion-rights groups and an archvillain for abortion opponents who first protested him two decades ago.
In March, Tiller was acquitted of charges that he violated Kansas abortion laws. Yet again, the man some labeled “Tiller the Killer” went on with his business.
And yet again, many abortion opponents felt their concerns were ignored by prosecutors and politicians.
“There was a lot of anger when the decision went in favor of Dr. Tiller,” said Mel Khan, a political science professor at Wichita State University.
They shot him in church. In. Church. On a Sunday morning. All the anti-crowd can do is complain that it will set back their agenda 20 years. There's no, we're sorry someones life was taken over an ideological difference.
Here's my favorite part of the article "“It makes the abortionists the victims,” Sullenger said. “They’re not the victims. They’re the victimizers as far as we’re concerned.”"
Really? he's not a victim? Is he not currently lying on a slab in a mortuary somewhere getting ready to be autopsied so they can collect evidence. People who believe this way are selfish pricks. Your religious beliefs have no business is legislating what can possibly happen with MY body. If you don't like the laws in your state then go move to state where you do like them. I've heard South Dakota is a good bet, they've restricted abortions to the point where it's almost impossible to obtain one.
At the age of 41, I recently found out that I was pregnant. Something was not right with the baby and I miscarried. My boyfriend and I are emotionally devastated by this. However, before that happened we sat down and discussed doing genetic testing given my age and his.
Would I choose to bring a child into this world with a massive disability that would prevent it from living a life free from pain? No way. There are some disabilities that we could live with and some we couldn't. Some tests that required waiting until the second trimester. That's a personal decision each person or couple has to face. I can tell you it is not an easy thing to think about. It's a decision one hopes to never have to make. But the reality is that many women face the same choices daily. And if in the end the choice is to not continue with the pregnancy then a LEGAL, MEDICALLY SAFE procedure should be available to them.
The anti-abortion lobby can no longer stop a first trimester abortion. RU 486 made that possible. It can be ordered from outside the country if need be. All that they would accomplish if they tried to take that away is make it harder for the poor to obtain it. So they have stepped up their efforts on other fronts. Luckily for the folks in Pennsylvania a 2nd trimester abortion is still available. Let's keep it that way.
Abortion is never an easy decision for anyone. Let alone while you're having someone else's agenda and religion shoved down your throat while you're going through the agonizing process. I'm lucky that I got to deal with one of the top doctors in the city, attached to a hospital free of protesters. Should I have had to make such an awful choice I would have been treated with dignity and would have been free of people shouting baby killer in my face. Every woman in our country should have the same choice.
He was one of three doctors in the entire country to perform a third trimester abortion. 3. That's how far the protesters have eroded our rights by force, intimidation, and violence to doctors. By protesting at their homes, work places, and even their children's school.
I hope people like Cheryl Sullenger rot in hell. You can find out more about her here She was arrested, convicted and served 2.5 years in jail for conspiracy to bomb an abortion clinic. With human beings inside. She has since 'renounced' violence? Leopards don't change their spots. Or should I say religious zealots don't change their ideology. She is no better than a home grown version of Al-queda.
I say strip them of their rights as American citizens for these acts of violence and yes, what I believe is home grown terrorism. Send them to Gitmo.
Political backlash expected from Tiller’s shooting
By DAVID KLEPPER
The Star’s Topeka correspondent
WICHITA | The bullet that killed George Tiller on Sunday did what lawmakers, prosecutors and grassroots activists never could: end the career of the nation’s most prominent abortion provider.
But those who long fought against Tiller’s work now worry Sunday’s act of vigilantism will set back efforts to restrict abortion and will poison the debate — possibly for years.
“I think he (Tiller) was a lawbreaker,” said Rep. Scott Schwab, an Olathe Republican who supports more abortion restrictions. “But this is not how you win … you win by winning hearts, not by stopping them from beating.”
Until Sunday, Kansas’ abortion debate looked to be settling into a staid middle age. Sure, Tiller’s clinic was still subject to daily protests. Sure, every year saw new attempts to restrict abortions in the Legislature. But the debate more and more hinged on hypertechnical changes to state statute.
It was a battle waged with news releases and legislative hearings, not bullets or bombs.
That changed Sunday when Tiller’s death left both sides looking for answers, and speculating about the future.
Abortion-rights supporters said Sunday’s killing shows the danger of heated ideological rhetoric, and the continued need to protect women’s right to abortion.
“We’re not going to let the terrorists win,” said Peter Brownlie, president of Planned Parenthood of Kansas and Mid-Missouri.
Anti-abortion leaders denounced Sunday’s shooting as a vicious and unpardonable act.
One of Tiller’s most dogged critics, Phill Kline, former attorney general and former Johnson County district attorney, sent a statement to reporters saying he was “stunned by this lawless and violent act, which must be condemned and should be met with the full force of law.”
Mark Gietzen of Wichita, who has organized 1,846 consecutive days of protests outside Tiller’s clinic, said Sunday’s killing could deal a significant public relations blow to abortion opponents.
“If this person’s connected in any way to the pro-life movement, it’ll set us back 20 years, because the people of America do not approve of this behavior,” he said.
Others worry it will erase years of grassroots work. Cheryl Sullenger, a spokeswoman for Operation Rescue, fears Tiller’s death could prompt sympathy for opponents.
“It makes the abortionists the victims,” Sullenger said. “They’re not the victims. They’re the victimizers as far as we’re concerned.”
Tiller was a dedicated to his work, for two decades one of the few physicians in the nation to specialize in late-term abortion. He was shot in 1993 and his clinic was bombed in 1986.
He also survived legal attempts to shut him down, emerging unscathed from grand jury investigations and criminal prosecutions. Legislative attempts to curtail his work typically were vetoed. An attempt to take away Tiller’s medical license was pending when he was killed.
Over the years, Tiller became a lightning rod, a hero to abortion-rights groups and an archvillain for abortion opponents who first protested him two decades ago.
In March, Tiller was acquitted of charges that he violated Kansas abortion laws. Yet again, the man some labeled “Tiller the Killer” went on with his business.
And yet again, many abortion opponents felt their concerns were ignored by prosecutors and politicians.
“There was a lot of anger when the decision went in favor of Dr. Tiller,” said Mel Khan, a political science professor at Wichita State University.
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